When Your Daughter Has Postpartum Depression
If you have a child who is suffering from postpartum depression, you may be concerned about how to approach the situation. Knowing what to say and how to act when your child struggles may seem daunting. Additionally, you may be wondering how to offer support without overwhelming her.
Here is some guidance for parents to follow when their child suffers from postpartum depression.
Communicate
If your daughter exhibits signs of depression after giving birth, it can be difficult to understand her struggle fully. Communicating openly with her about her feelings will help you understand her symptoms. If she is reluctant to discuss her condition, you can provide encouragement and support by letting her know you are there when she is ready to discuss it.
Communicating with the rest of the family and your daughter is important. This includes her spouse, siblings, and in-laws if necessary. Everyone affected should be aware of the symptoms and effects of the condition so they aren’t left in the dark.
Stay in Touch
Whether you live nearby or not, continue to stay in touch with your daughter even after she starts treatment. Postpartum depression symptoms can be chronic and can change over time for many women.
Staying in touch allows you to track her progress and offer support during treatment. The most important thing is to make sure she doesn’t feel alone. Low social support is one of the strongest risk factors for postpartum depression, and good support may help reduce how serious it gets.
Offer to Help
If proximity allows, arrange regular visits with your daughter and her family to check-in. This lets her know you are continuing to support her. Offer to help her with housework, grocery shopping, or chores so she can rest and not worry about additional stress.
Appetite changes are common with postpartum depression, and other self-care habits often get dropped as well. Offering support in preparing food, doing laundry, and helping with other chores can help the mother maintain her health during this time.
If your daughter has other children besides the newborn, offer to look after them or take them to appointments, classes or school. The relief of this responsibility will be a big weight off the parents and will also help the other children as well.
Attend Appointments
Because postpartum depression causes several symptoms, including fatigue, someone should attend doctor’s appointments with the affected woman. As parents, offering to take her to appointments or attend them with her is a great way to stay in the loop regarding her progress while offering your support.
Avoid Overwhelming Her
As a parent, it is natural for you to want to protect your daughter and ensure her well-being is looked after. However, finding a balance and not overwhelming her with support is necessary. Offering to help is a great way to show support — but if she resists, don’t force it on her. Attempting to fix the situation may increase her guilt or anxiety.
Instead, listen to her needs and trust that she will ask you for help when she is ready.
Support Her Decisions
If your child and her spouse choose to pursue medication or therapy as part of treatment for postpartum depression, it’s important to support them in their decision. Seeking treatment as medical and mental health professionals prescribes is vital to recovery.
Your support will be a fantastic asset to your daughter as she recovers because treatment may be unfamiliar territory for her. Remind her that she is doing the right thing and that with treatment, most women feel better and their postpartum depression symptoms improve.
